the shift from doing to being
why i quit social media
hey my beautiful soul! welcome to something new.
it’s been 9 months since i deleted facebook, and one month since i added instagram to that list. i’m not on any others right now, other than youtube, but some view that as a search engine versus social media, but in any event it doesn’t suck my time remotely near as much as instagram was, so i can’t even really consider it social media at least in my life.
social media was monopolising all my time. and before that it was texting. pretty much anything to avoid creating space to journey within. i had to fill every second of every day with something. and while it could have been with more positive uses of my time such as reading, it became endlessly scrolling or “connecting” on instagram and it just no longer felt healthy for me.
am i against social media? nope, if you use it, feel happy with your interaction with it, i encourage you 100% to use it, it can be such a beautiful tool. but for me, the moments of feeling like it was a good use of my time were becoming less and less and i knew, for me it was time to say goodbye.
so i’ve been musing on the question: what does one do without social media? and i’d be lying if i didn’t say the thought made me uncomfortable when i first deleted it a month ago.
but i knew the answer for me anyway was
• space to be
• space to create.
• space to write more on here on my blog/newsletter.
• space to form my thoughts more wholly.
• space to own everything i am outside of the constraints of who ego thinks i “should” be
• space to show up in the world in a more wholly authentic way
and from this space, this has been born, it’s looked like more time for existing, but not in an oh no what am i doing with my life way, but more of an effortless peaceful way. and going forward i’m not 100% sure what that’s going to look like as i continue, but i’m giving myself the chance to allow for what’s to come.
i know one of the biggest reasons i didn’t quit sooner was because i was convinced i wouldn’t be able to survive without it. that i “needed” it to be seen, for my business to thrive, but when i was creating space for something new to come without a true “business” in existence i found myself questioning more and more, why am i still here!? ego came up with many answers month to month, that my sharings were needed, that no one would remember me if i didn’t, and just created this weird dependency that i needed it or i’d melt away into non-existence, lol, ridiculous right?
but i’ve been reflecting for years; businesses have been in existence for a long time without the use of social media and are thriving. that’s what word of mouth is for. (and this is exactly how my nails/makeup/lash lifting business worked).
so here i am stepping off the hamster wheel to find more space for peace.
will i reenter the world of social media? who knows.
but for now, you’ll find me here, trying to use my time more intentionally, writing and sharing, giving myself space to be.
all my love always,
p.s. here are some links to articles i’ve found about quitting social media
how i knew i needed to quit instagram
if you worry your business will not succeed without social media, a woman who’s done it and is doing well – do you want to quit social media?
it’s time to take a break from instagram
my reasons for quitting social media
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